You’ve been dreaming of this moment your whole life.  When will he pop the question?  Or will you?  What will the moment be like? And what will you tell your friends and family? What you might not realize is that all that perfection-pressure means that everyone ends up telling some little white lies about the proposal and engagement ring.  Here are the top six lies that everyone ends up telling about their engagement.  

"I Was So Surprised. I Had No Idea What He Was Planning!"

Most guys plan a surprise proposal. Or so they think. But the reality is that their girlfriends actually know that something is up. Let’s face it, guys inevitably slip up at some point and their girlfriends know that a proposal is coming. But here’s the thing. They pretend that they have no idea.  It’s like a surprise party where you see your best friend coming into your building with a present on your birthday but you still act shocked when everyone jumps out to say surprise. It’s part of the game and that little white lie means everyone is happy.  

"Oh Is Her Ring Nice? I Didn't Notice."

You think that your friends don’t know who has the most spectacular and coveted engagement ring?  Of course you all do. But you love your ring so you can’t admit that you like hers better.  So, um, you don’t notice it. Or decide that it’s a bit tacky.  Whatever. Anyway, it’s not like engagement is a competitive sport.  Except. It kind of is. A little bit.  

"I Love Your Grandmothers Ring"

You LOVE your fiancé.  You LOVE his grandmother for her part in bringing him into the world, even if you never met her.  But.  You may not LOVE her engagement ring for you.  Basically, guys, unless your grandmother is Queen Elizabeth, giving a family ring is a bit dicey unless you are willing to let your girlfriend choose a new setting, modify the ring, or have a say in whether she really wants it on her finger EVERY DAY FOR THE REST OF HER LIFE. Will your mom get offended if she doesn’t like it? Face it, a new ring may be a lot easier for everyone (especially your girlfriend.) So don’t make her tell this lie.  

"I'll Be Happy With Whatever You Choose"

Let’s get real here for a moment. You wear your engagement ring EVERY DAY FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.  You should love it! That’s why no woman doesn’t care what the ring looks like.  So guys, listen up.  She knows what ring she wants. And, believe me, she will find a way to let you know!  She’s got a Pinterest board.  She told her sister or her best friend.  She left a magazine open to the page.  She window shops at the local jeweler.  PAY ATTENTION! And get her the style she wants, OK?  Because she’s lying if she says you can choose whatever you want.  

"The Proposal Was So Romantic!"

Proposing is scary. Here’s why.  Time magazine surveyed women who said no to a proposal and 67 percent of them said it was because the proposal was not in a romantic-enough setting. Basically, the proposal CANNOT be too romantic. It’s impossible. Seal took Heidi Klum on a helicopter ride to the Arctic tundra where there was a tent filled with rose petals. That’s the kind of story she wants. So start watching proposal videos on YouTube and get planning.  But also don’t worry because if she loves you she’ll lie and say that the proposal over Kung Pao Chicken at your favorite Chinese restaurant was romantic. Sigh.  

"Size Doesn't Matter."

Hold on, what’s the topic here?  Oh, engagement rings. ;) Sure, a big impressive ring is nice and she would definitely love it. If the ring is delicate, she’ll probably lie and say that she would prefer it that way.  But what’s really important here is that the ring fits her finger reasonably well.  Sure, rings can be sized. But if she can’t get it on her finger, she can’t show it off.  Imagine this all day long.  “I’m engaged!”  “Congratulations, let me see the ring!” “Oh, it’s being sized because it didn’t fit.”  “Oh, well, uh.  Congratulations!”  See what we mean?  It’s a bummer. So find out her ring size (she has left clues, get cracking) and when in doubt go a little big so she can at least get it on to take that engagement selfie.